Begining Marriage HELP!!! I need any advice I can get.?

I was dating this girl for little under a year. We just got married last October. Well there was always a big difference between us. She was a virgin and i wasn't. Matter of fact I used to be promiscuous. All of my past relationships where based on and I didn't' want that anymore. I wanted a real relationship that would last. She would tell me that she was ual in the past and so I never pressed the issue of intimacy because I didn't want to make any complicated. She was the one who would bring up marriage and raising a family so we eventually got married. Well at our wedding she got completely hammered and told me at the hotel that she never thought of me to be ually attractive. (that was a real kick in the nuts). I blew it off because she was drunk and i thought she was just nervous. But as time went on it was more noticeable that she was telling the truth that night. Now out of the few time we actually had she is not 6 months pregnant and wants nothing to do with me at all. I haven't touched my wife in 6 months. Not a huge, kiss, or even holding hands. We have seen a marriage counselor but she wants nothing to do with changing or making it work. she thinks that it will all come natural with time. Plus i don't want someone to force themselves to love me. My physical appearance hasn't changed any. I have actually lost weight and really starting to tone up. I just found out what her previous boyfriends looked like. They where all real skinny with long hair and I am stout with very short hair. I have no idea what to do.